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Some men just feel left out...

Sex Toys for Men
At times it can seem like most products are made for women only -- not true! Brown Bag Party carries an entire line of products for men only, everything from lotions and potions, erection rings, and masturbators, all of which have one thing in common: they're for men only! While some men refuse to use these types of toys, others really love them. Again, it's really up to you and your personal tastes. I recommend you try everything at least once -- after all, you might find that male sex toys bring an exciting dimension to your sex life -- alone or with a partner.


Masturbation Sleeves

The ultimate male pleasure toy, a masturbation sleeve is simple to use: you insert your penis into the soft, warm masturbator and pump away. Made from a variety of substances, masturbators can be shaped like flashlights, beer cans, extra-large penises or realistic vaginas, and are usually internally coated with silicone or CyberskinTM meant to simulate vaginal walls.

While masturbation sleeves are an ideal nightstand choice for the single man, there's no reason why men in partnerships can't use them, too. Many couples enjoy having a pleasure chest stocked with fun items for both partners, either to use alone, together or side-by-side. If you've never tried a masturbator, you might consider it. Like a dildo or vibrator for women, masturbators offer a degree of control over your orgasm that many men find exciting and satisfying.


Erection Rings

Erection rings restrict the flow of blood away from the erect penis, creating a pleasurable feeling of tightness and pressure, prolonging erection, and sometimes delaying ejaculation. Usually worn at the base of the penis behind the scrotum, some men enjoy erection rings around the base of their penis only. It really depends on size and personal preference.

You may find it easiest to put on an erection ring before your penis is erect, but you'll want to experiment to find what works best for you. You should remove the ring as soon as it becomes uncomfortable -- do not wear any longer than 30 minutes. Beginners should play around with different durations, just to make sure they don't hurt themselves. In order to avoid unpleasant snaps, snags or yanking, you may want to trim or shave the hair in the area where you'll be wearing the strap or ring, or use a little lubrication to grease the wheels.

Erection rings come in all sizes, materials and constructions. Here are a few of the most popular:


Single-strap Ring Placed behind the scrotum and fastened over the top of penis, this adjustable strap is usually made of leather. These easily removed straps are perfect for beginners.

Solid Ring Made of sturdy plastic or metal, these solid rings can be dangerous if you aren't experienced. Be careful. Insert your flaccid penis through the ring, then tuck your testicles, one at a time, through the hoop. Solid rings don't have any snaps or buckles, so the only way you're going to get them off is by losing your erection, either through removal of stimulus or ejaculation.

Testicle-Spreader Place the longer strap behind the scrotum and snap it closed on top of your penis, forming a ring. The short straps should be hanging down, behind the scrotum. Snap each short strap to the ring, using one hand to hold a testicle and the other to bring the strap between your testicles to the sides of the ring.

Testicle-Stretcher Place the longest strap behind the scrotum and snap it closed on top of your penis. Pull your testicles to the bottom of your scrotum and snap the widest piece of leather around the scrotum above the testicles. Bring the thin strap between the testicles and snap it to the ball stretcher. Adding small weights or a leash to the attached ring can increase sensations of pressure -- it sounds extremely complicated, but some men really enjoy these doohickeys.

Vibrating Ring This type of erection ring is designed to stimulate both partners with vibration during intercourse. Usually a single-strap erection ring made of a firmer jelly material, the ring slides onto his penis and then usually has an attachment for a vibrating bullet. The bullet may have a battery pack or, with more recent technology, may simply require the inserting of the battery to work. The bullet can be worn on the top of the penis to stimulate the woman partner's clitoris or put below the penis to stimulate his testicles.


Do not use erection rings if you bleed easily or have a blood clotting disorder, if you are diabetic, or if you suffer from any vascular or nerve disorder. Do not use these toys if you are taking anticoagulants, aspirin or any other blood-thinning medication. If you experience discomfort or any unusual body changes -- including bruising, pain, bleeding or loss of sensation -- remove the ring and see your doctor. Do not place over sore, swollen, or infected areas or areas without sensation.

As with any toy, you should always make sure to use the right lubricant.

Remember, using a sex toy is all about trying new things!

Maintaining Your Sex Toys

Maintenance involves many things, but taking these few quick and easy steps will ensure the best performance from your toys, and the most pleasurable experience for you!

Before Use

As soon as you receive your new pleasure pal, go down this checklist:
• Inspect your sex toy for imperfections, including rough seams (you may be able to file down very small seams with a fingernail file), discoloration (which may be an expected part of the manufacturing process or indicate extreme temperature exposure), or tears in softer materials such as jelly and realistic materials.
• Check for cracks in acrylic, glass, and plastic toys or plastic pieces of toys (battery packs, handles, etc.).
• Insert fresh batteries to make sure the toy works properly.

Using the Right Lubricant

Choosing the correct sexual lube is key to keeping your sex toy in the best shape possible, and it makes every experience more enjoyable. Remember these tips:
• Water-based lubricant may be used with any sex toy.
• While silicone lubricants are perfect for use with a partner, a silicone lubricant should never be used with silicone sex toys, nor should it be used on any realistic material (CyberskinTM, FuturoticTM, NeoSkin®, FauxskinTM, Soft TouchTM, UltraSkin).
• Never use an oil-based lube or petroleum jelly on any toy that will come into contact with or be inserted into the vagina (may increase risk of vaginal infections), or with anything made of rubber/latex, including latex condoms (will disintegrate latex).

Tips for Sharing Sex Toys

If you share your sex toys with a partner, or want to switch between anal and vaginal use, even on yourself, you must thoroughly clean the toy to avoid infection, and to avoid introducing bacteria into the vagina. The best way to avoid bacteria transmission is to use a condom over the toy and change it whenever the toy is used for different partners or orifices. This method is hygienic, fast, and extends the life of your toys by protecting the material!

Proper Storage of Sex Toys

Be sure to store your toys in a place for your toys that keeps them separate, cool, and dry, away from pets (and kids) and protected from dirt and dust. And always remove the batteries before storing.

When to Replace Your Toys

No sex toy lasts forever, and some, depending on frequency of use, may last a very short while, so how do you know when it's time to say good-bye?
• Mechanical features slow or stop working, even after battery replacement
• Cracks are visible in plastic, acrylic, or glass toys, or on the plastic pieces of other toys
• Mold or mildew has formed on the material, or the material is deteriorating
• Battery corrosion is seen inside the battery pack

Much like shoes, the more you use a sex toy, the quicker it will wear out, so it's possible to go through a toy a month-or to keep one for as long as a year. Just be sure to replace your sensual friend and not try to fix it yourself!

Have questions or comments? Feel free to contact me!

Seek and ye shall find...

Finding Your G-Spot


The G-Spot is located along the upper/front wall of the vagina, about two inches in, towards the stomach. Try some manual exploration. Lie on your back on the floor with your knees bent and rest your feet on the bed in front of you. Insert your middle finger into your vagina and gently stroke the front wall behind the pubic bone, about two inches up. You should feel a patch of skin that has a different texture from the rest of your vaginal walls, slightly rough or "ruffled." Using a "comehither" motion, press into the center of this ruffled patch until you feel an area that is sensitive to pressure. That's your G-Spot, also known as your urethral sponge. It's on the other side of your vaginal wall, which is why you'll probably respond more to pressure than light stroking. The area is about the size of a pea, but can enlarge to the size of a walnut when stimulated. You should also know that many women feel like they need to urinate when this area is stimulated. This is due to the fact that, as it enlarges, it presses on the same nerves that signal a full bladder. Most women find, however, that as stimulation is continued, this feeling goes away and is replaced with pleasurable sensations.


Doing the G-Spot Jiggly


The G Spot is not a magical button, but rather, an area that some women enjoy having stimulated. The following steps are written for self-exploration, but can be modified for use with a partner.

• Relax. This should be fun, not a goal-oriented mission.


• Use a lubricant you like.


• Masturbate in your usual way until you feel aroused.


• Insert one or two fingers into the vagina, crooking them up toward the belly (12 o'clock position if you are lying on your back).


• Press firmly against the roof of the vagina about one-third of the way in.
  You should feel a small ruffled lump that increases in size with continued stimulation.


• Start slow: insert your fingers gently and use soft, gentle motions at first. When you feel the G-Spot area becoming enlarged, use more pressure.


• Remember to keep paying attention to other parts of your body: your breasts, your clitoris ... whatever feels good.


• As your body begins to respond positively and you start feeling pleasure, use more pressure and more rapid motions.


• As you continue to stimulate the G-Spot, you may feel your vagina clench and bear down, the signal that orgasm is imminent. Apply more pressure to the urethral sponge, stroking and manipulating the area around the urethral opening.


• You may feel the urge to urinate. Don't fight it! You may be getting ready to ejaculate. Relax, trust your body and your partner, and see what happens.

Many women find G-Spot stimulation easier and more pleasurable in positions other than on their backs. Try rolling over on your stomach or getting on all fours. Women don't usually enjoy penetration until they are somewhat aroused. Engage in whatever foreplay you find arousing: touching, kissing, stroking, oral sex, talking ... whatever works for you. G-Spot stimulation should come at the middle or the end of your sexual play, not at the beginning. Use lubrication when you're ready for digital penetration, even if your body is already producing natural lubrication, which can often run dry at an inopportune moment. You might also consider purchasing one of the many sex toys designed specifically for G-Spot stimulation.


That's all there is to it. No magic. Some women can have an orgasm from G-Spot stimulation alone. Some say it increases the strength of their orgasms or allows them to be multi-orgasmic. A few even say that stimulation leads to ejaculation. Others dislike stimulation of the area altogether. Experiment and see what feels good to you or your partner. Most of all, have fun. And don't forget -- if you enjoy G-Spot stimulation, be sure to teach your partner how to find it and what to do with it!

How to pick out a sex toy

Questions to Ask Yourself

Sex toys come in thousands of different sizes, shapes and functions -- you could have a different toy for every day of the week! But to narrow the search field, think about your needs and preferences, and consider the following questions:

What shapes appeal to you?
Do you find some sex toys silly looking?
Do you have a color preference?
Do you know what materials you like most: silicone, jelly, rubber or plastic?
Do you want stay traditional or try something new and wild?
Do you have trouble reaching orgasm during penetration?
Do you consider yourself to be "clitoral?"
Do you want to use your toy alone or with a partner?

There's no right answer to any of these questions -- whatever floats your boat is fine! However, you'll have an easier time selecting your pocket pal if you give it some thought before you try to buy.

Whichever toy you decide to try, let your desires be your guide. Don't let other people's inhibitions bring you down. There is absolutely nothing wrong with buying, owning and using sex toys! Whether you use your toys alone or with a partner, you are enhancing your life and pumping up your sex drive. Furthermore, you're keeping an open mind and trying something new, which is the key to life-long learning. So relax and enjoy yourself. Who knows? Perhaps some day you'll have a whole treasure trove of titillating toys to tickle your fancy!

How to touch a man...

The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is loosely translated as "Wand of Light." In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, as a "Wand of Light" that channels creative energy and pleasure.

Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.
Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.


Beginning the Massage


Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and his genitals clearly exposed for the massage. Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to get the receiver to relax. Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into relaxation.


Pour a small quantity of oil on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the Perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take time when massaging the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with your right hand, pull up and slide off, then alternate with your left hand. Take your time doing this, right, left, right, left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the squeeze at the head of the Lingam and then sliding down and off. Again, alternate with right and left hands.

Massage the head of the Lingam as if you are using an orange juicer. Massage all around the head and shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body. It is believed that many ailments may be cured by a good Lingam massage. The Lingam may or may not go soft as you perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn't get hard again. You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.


If it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate, back off, allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do this several times, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off. It is important to remember that the goal is not orgasm in and of itself. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is a very expanded sex life.


The Sacred Spot


Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe larger midway between the testicles and anus. Be gentle and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep inside and it may be uncomfortable at first. Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam with your right hand and massage his Sacred Spot with your left hand.
Try pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation. The man may have strong emotions come up during access to the Sacred Spot. Be the best friend and healer he could have in that moment. You, the giver, are creating a place of trust and intimacy.

Ending the Massage


When he feels complete (with the massage), gently remove your hands cover him and keep him warm. Most importantly, allow him to rest quietly for at least five to ten minutes.

A new kind of party!